“If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don’t want to be.” -Dale Carnegie
“Losing weight is simple. It’s all about mathematics. Burn more calories than you eat and you will lose weight,” a well-meaning friend once explained to me. On some level, he was right. However, for the most part, and especially if he explained his simple formula to an individual who was desperately trying to lose weight, he was wrong. Embarrassingly, I cannot claim to have never repeated some facsimile of his message at some point in my efforts to help a trusting client to lose weight. When the “simple mathematics” theory is applied to fitness, more often than not, frustration results. True, the math is easy to understand. However, it’s nearly impossible to apply and consistently adhere to.
Fitness is not about exercising. It’s not about calories in and calories out. Well before an excess of daily calories begins to be evident in the readout on the bathroom scale, or requires the purchase of bigger pants, a pattern of thinking has been well established- planted, rooted and allowed to grow- which led to unhealthy behaviors. Conversely, before the number on the scale begins to diminish, and smaller clothes are purchased, and the desired results are maintained for the remainder of your life, new thinking patterns must be planted, rooted and fostered to growth. Fitness is about behavior change and personal development. It’s about controlling thoughts. Assigning the process of fitness any less significance will result in frustration, failure, and at best, a lifetime of quitting and starting over without ever really obtaining permanent and thrilling results.
Take a few moments to analyze and reflect again on the quote at the top of this page. That basic idea will form a platform from which we will build the program for improving the strength of your mind and gaining control over the process of fitness and and mastering all self-improvement projects. From this point forward, think of yourself as a combination of ‘the person you want to be’ and ‘the person you don’t want to be.’ In each moment, “you” are somewhere between those two polar opposites, not stuck in that moment, but using that moment to move closer to who you want to be, or perhaps to make choices that will lead to you becoming more like the person you do not wish to be. “You” are not a static complete entity, but rather a human being in a constant state of flux, changing with every breath, and every thought.
At the close of each month, day or hour, you will different than when that moment began. Relative to the person you want to be, you are either better or you are worse – more like the person you want to be or less. The choices you make and the actions you take will determine how you come out at the end of today, this week, this month and certainly this year. Choose well. Act well. At the close of each day ask yourself: “Am I better or worse than I was yesterday?” Identify the areas in which you need to improve and repeat the process. Never stop becoming better.