One of my cherished social media followers recently contacted me to ask: How do I do this?
I asked for some clarification on her question.
“I mean, I love reading the blogs, watching the videos, and learning about becoming even better, but what I really want to know is: How do I actually do it?”
For me, having this question posed by one who is an avid follower of my work was… honestly… pretty humbling (and even embarrassing). After all, every piece of my work is devoted to answering that very question. 🤦♂️
As a coach, I want to provide tons of options and methods to help you to coach yourself, I even like to bold the main point and coaching questions in the emails I send.
But… Let’s cut the 💩 (if there is any here). 😂 The message which follows will outline EXACTLY what you need to do to coach yourself.
I’ll use the acronym G.E.A.R. (like shift your life into a higher “GEAR”) to help. Good?
G.E.A.R. stands for Goal setting, Exploration, Action, Reflection.
There is the basic 4 step process that I use as a coach to assist my clients, and the very same process that you and I must use in order to become better through self-coaching.
Goal setting involves clearly identifying the area of life that we want to improve and what specific improvement we desire to make.
Exploration is taking some time (with a coach or on our own) get really clear on what exactly we want and how it connects to what we personally value most in life as well as how it affects our identity. This is where we spend most of our time in coaching doing the really fun stuff and turning the moment into a transitional life event.
Action steps are selected and detailed and commitment is made to taking them within a specific timeframe, usually one week.
Reflection is done at the close of the action timeframe. The results (or lack of results) are analyzed and the process begins all over again.
Does that make sense? Please let me know if you have any lingering questions! 😃 (For the next few weeks, I’m gonna break down each of those steps in even more detail, just to make sure.)
I know it’s not earth-shattering or even very cool; it’s just plain ol’ work. Work that we love to do because it brings us what we want most: improvement. (Can I get an “AMEN”???)
I’m super curious: as you think about how you can use this, what’s holding you back or getting in your way right now?
Please leave a reply below or message me directly to let me know.
Now that you have the self-coaching method, all you have to do is sit down and get to work. 👊
You can do this.
Nate Sleger is the founder of Even Better, a coaching company, and the author of Exercising Backwards, an inside out approach to your fitness. You can connect with Even Better Coaching on social media or by downloading a free copy of Nate’s book HERE.